You are estranged from your husband of many years and you still love him dearly. You have tried all that you could to get your husband back but without luck. Do you know what is going wrong here? You are tired of banging on closed doors and sick of seeing your countless messages going unanswered. Is there any end to this drama? Are you finally going to get your husband back if you continue to follow this routine? No way, as you have played the game completely wrong.
First of all, getting an estranged husband, or for that matter an estranged wife, is never easy. Changing a hardened mind set or softening a bruised ego is no mean task. But even then, you can be successful, if you play your cards well and play on his psyche more than anything else. Remember, after an estrangement, your husband is expecting you to act in a particular way. He knows you love him very much - so you are expected to cry, whine, beg, plead and generally throw tantrums trying to get your husband back. What if you act differently? This is where the action really begins.
Follow these points and draw your own conclusions:
o Stop sending him mails or calling him. Your sudden silence is bound to trigger curiosity. He starts thinking what could have happened to you and how you are coping with the split? This is precisely what you want him to do.
o Use this period of estrangement to your benefit. Put this time to use by taking care of our mind and body. Join a gym, revamp your wardrobe, and go for yoga classes for keeping your mind calm. How can this help to get your husband back? You are improving your persona, when you take better care of your mind and body. So your hubby may be in for a surprise when he meets you after the estrangement.
o The more confident you are and the more you take charge of your flying emotions, the more chances you have to get him back to your life. Remember, no man likes to get back to a depressed, irritable and tantrum-throwing woman! To attract him towards you, appear self-confident and in control. He would forever keep guessing what the secret behind your superior exterior is!
o Have the time of your life, during his absence from your life. This does not necessarily mean getting involved with another man. But you could still have fun with old friends - laugh, watch funny movies or talk shows or whatever that makes your mind lighter. Your indomitable life force is bound to attract the attention of your ex and you can get your husband back before you know it.
o When he finally brushes your confident attitude aside and meets you, be polite and courteous without starting the blame game or accusing him for causing hurt etc. In stead, once you know that he wants to come back, greet him with open arms. There is plenty of time ahead of you when all the nitty-gritty details of the marriage can be sorted out.