If you or your husband has had an affair and you don't think you will be able to save your marriage or even get your husband to want you any longer, think again. Although it might be difficult, there are ways that you can create desire, longing and excitement in your husband. Chances are there is love left and that's all it takes to build your marriage back up. Here are some tips on how to win back your husband after the affair.
Show Him Just How Special You Really Are
Remember the things that your husband loves about you, the reason he married you and the things that drive him wild? This is the time to reach back into your memory and pull all of those little weapons out - and to start using them. Show your husband that you're the only one who knows him like you do and just exactly what he would be missing if he left for good or didn't want to be with you anymore.
Keep in mind that you shouldn't be too obvious about this - you want to do these things as if you have no idea how much he loves them. It might be a certain way you wear your hair, something you say or do, or an outfit that your husband can't resist. After hitting him with a couple of these, he will be like putty in your hands. How To Win Back Husband After Affair
Don't Be Desperate
One of the things you want to avoid while you're trying to win your husband back after the affair is acting desperate. You want to make it look as though you couldn't care less (although you do.) The reason is this - part of the excitement of a woman (for a man) is the chase. You probably know this from dating him!
Bring back that exciting element to the relationship and allow him to see that you'd be just fine without him. This will get him excited and make him think twice about leaving you or being with another woman. The chase is a very important part of relationships, so don't act as though you're already his! Even though you are his, make him think he's got to win you over.
Allow Him to Have Space
While you probably wonder why you would want to give him space if you want him back, this is important. Giving him space allows him to come to his own conclusions without being 'under the influence.' This is what you want him to do, because when he comes back, he comes back without being pressured and without being coerced into coming back. If he doesn't come back of his own free will, then why would you want him back at all, right?
Let your husband have some space and take the time to realize that life is much better with you in it than with you absent.
It may hurt to think that you will lose your husband, but there is hope yet! When you follow the tips and suggestions above, you can get your husband back after the affair. How To Win Back Husband After Affair